How To Marry An Adventurous Girl

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Remind her that she's pretty when she wears a pony tail.Let's say you're meeting her for the first time; a girl at the coffee shop or at a party. Something about her draws you in.  Good.

Notice her shoes.  That's notice.  Not stare at.

What ever she's wearing on her feet, no matter what, look at her, smile kindly and tell her, "I like your shoes."  Word for word.  Not "Nice shoes."  Remember that.

Now, there's a caveat here.  If she's wearing running shoes, you've got a problem. Because who the hell compliments something like that? So tread lightly, enter at your own risk.

And what if she's wearing flip-flops?  Say, "I like that toenail polish color."  Easy-like, lay it on real thin; otherwise she'll think you're a foot fettish freak.  Do what ever you can to not be weird about it.

Notice if she has a tan line on her foot from the flip-flops.  That means something good.

Otherwise, notice her ear rings.  Tell her you like them.

Mean what you say.

Pay attention to her when she talks about trail running.  Or skiing.  Or swimming. Or hiking. Or anything at all.

Ask her if she wants to go rock climbing.  Be nice about it. Put a top rope on two routes: a moderate one that she'll dance right up, and one just a little bit harder.  Don't talk about the difficulty grades and ratings.  She doesn't give a shit about all the technical stuff you know.  She wants to have fun.

If you have to ask yourself, "Is she having fun?" You screwed up already.

Go running with her at the park.

Circle around the lake three times, then pause on the grass to stretch your muscles.

As you're both stretching, look at her and then wink at her once.

Keep a cooler in the car when you two go out for a hike. Store a selection of cold drinks and a ripe mango waiting for when you're all done. Sit on the bumper and share the mango.

After a day out on a trail, take her to an interesting mom-n-pop Italian restaurant.  Always be kind to the wait staff.

Go backpacking with her, just the two of you.

Find a river with a rope swing and . . . you know.  Use it.

Then go backpacking with a group of friends.

Try not to spill the stove as it's cooking the only meal you brought.

Remind her that she's pretty when she wears a pony tail.

Mean what you say.

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Jennifer Nichols
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# Jennifer Nichols 2010-12-15 08:32
PERFECT! This was so cute and so true. Words of wisdom we will share with our son one day. Rock on adventure Momma (now a post from the mom as to how we scored the daddy-o's)!!
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Mark
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# Mark 2010-12-15 09:06
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"now a post from the mom as to how we scored the daddy-o's"

Good idea!
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Tetyana
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# Tetyana 2010-12-15 10:07
LOL
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Christy Lynch
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# Christy Lynch 2010-12-15 21:53
I just learned about your magazine a few months ago. Your articles are very interesting. Love this article and words of wisdom about Adventurous Women wearing a pony tail. That would be Me! Thank you for sharing!
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Mark
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# Mark 2010-12-17 08:43
You're sweet as peaches. Thanks for checking us out!
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Mike Key
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# Mike Key 2011-01-16 20:18
I think I just found my role models on this blog. I've been married for a year and half now, and I've very blessed to have found an adventurous wife. And we really want to raise our kids with a sense of adventure and appreciation for all of creation.

Anyways, great post!
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Mark Stephens
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# Mark Stephens 2011-01-16 21:28
You're too kind, Mike. A year and a half, huh? You two still qualify for some newlywed freebies when you go places. Remember that one! Use 'em while you can.
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Alvin Zest
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# Alvin Zest 2011-07-08 16:19
It may be just me but... if you need advice at this level of detail in to how to ... i'm struggling for the right word but seems like manipulate or entrap... the 'right' adventurous girl into believing you're someone thoughtful or kind or nice then well you're really already a lost cause. This post comes across as preachy, manipulative and most of all, how to 'fake sincerity' which please, no one wants... they want the real deal. This kind of thing should either comes naturally or not at all. Let's give Mark some points for intention but delivery and methods FAKE FAKE FAKE, and the results will not last. Please stop clogging up the internet with this superficial style-before-su bstance nonsense.
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Mark
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# Mark 2011-07-11 08:08
I know I can't improve without feedback like this, so I must "give you points" for that. Thank you.

However, relax. Learn to identify the tongue-in-cheek delivery of a true story when you see one.

The only thing in here that's real advice that I'd actually give is the last line, which speaks right to your comment. It appears you didn't read it.
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Morgan Kwan
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# Morgan Kwan 2013-04-05 12:56
This was brilliantly heart warming. This is how I was courted by my partner, he ALWAYS tells me how he loves my ponytail. And I hope both raise my kids with the same attributes and morals. Thanks for sharing :)
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